Anger Management: How To Stay Calm Instead Of Losing Your Cool
No matter how carefully you think about things, how much you plan ahead, how well you keep your emotions in check - sometimes it's just not possible to stay calm. The current system of society with its constant stresses and rapid changes can sometimes lead to outbursts and an inability to control anger. However, such is life. Life becomes a lot easier if one can channel their negative emotions into something constructive like writing or art or sports by picking up a hobby that makes them feel accomplished because the positive energy helps them see the bigger picture.
What is Anger?
Anger is a reaction to perceived stress, whether it's real or imagined. Sometimes the source of anger can be so minor it's laughable. In other cases, the source of an anger outburst is serious enough to warrant a psychological therapy session with a qualified therapist.
The Effects of Anger on the Body and Mind
When you're angry, your body physically changes as your pulse rate goes up and your blood pressure increases. Your muscles get tense and face gets red as blood rushes to certain parts of your body like the heart and lungs. You can get a headache and backache from having tensed muscles too much.
Understanding what causes anger and how it builds up can help you to prevent explosive outbursts.
What Makes People Crave Outbursts of Anger?
It's very easy to think that the reason people lose control is because they want to - it makes them feel powerful. The truth is that most of the time, the person who's angry doesn't actually know why they're lashing out at someone else or something else in their environment. They just know they're angry and need an outlet for that feeling.
People are naturally impatient and do not like to wait. When they aren't happy, they want the situation to change. A person who is angry might start with something small like a minor disagreement over money or time spent on an errand but then it can escalate into something bigger that could damage the relationship between them and their family or friends, cause physical harm to themselves or another person, or start a fight at work that could lead to an internal investigation.
It's important for anyone who has someone close whom they're angry with, who has anger management issues, or who is prone to outbursts of anger because of their past experiences to understand that most people can't control their anger when someone else's actions make them upset. However, everyone can control their actions when they're angry.
What Causes Anger?
There are many things that might cause a person to become angry. Some common examples include:
People who are easily angered by small things may have had a difficult childhood experience with an adult who was mean to them, who yelled at them, or was too strict. This causes them to feel they must prove themselves worthy.
People have a hard time controlling their anger if they don't understand the source of their frustration or why someone else might be acting differently toward them than usual. If a person tries to confront the person about it and has been rejected in the past, the usual response would be anger because of feeling disrespected and hurt by it. The quick response of anger is quite normal and the person may not recognize they're out of control if they grow up in an environment where threats and insults are used as a form of communication.
How to Reduce Anger
Anger is an emotion that can be controlled but the only way to get rid of it for good is to change what's causing it. When someone feels like their anger is justified and understandable, it's easier for them to control their actions when they become angry again because their thinking will be clearer.
Some things you can do on your own to limit your anger include:
- Avoid situations that cause you to become upset.
- Learn to forgive others for things they've done.
- Be careful not to put yourself in situations where you could become angry.
- Learn to recognize the source of that anger and work on improving the situation.
For more information, check out the useful article: In Control of Anger, Not Out Of It By Tony Nefi.
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A person who is angry might start with something small like a minor disagreement over money or time spent on an errand but then it can escalate into something bigger that could damage the relationship between them and their family or friends, cause physical harm to themselves or another person, or start a fight at work that could lead to an internal investigation.
For more information: http://www.moochthenovel.com/
Copyright © 2012 by Mooch Publishing LLC
A person who is angry might start with something small like a minor disagreement over money or time spent on an errand but then it can escalate into something bigger that could damage the relationship between them and their family or friends, cause physical harm to themselves or another person, or start a fight at work that could lead to an internal investigation.
In Control of Anger, Not Out Of It By Tony Nefi June 5th, 2012 No Comments It can be frightening for a person who has outbursts of anger for no apparent reason to learn about the physiological effects their anger is having on their body. But understanding what it is that causes anger and how they can control it can help them learn to deal with their emotions more rationally.
What Causes a "Headache" of Anger?
Having headaches while angry is not a common occurrence but it's often believed that the intense emotion is behind the headache. The truth is that people who are angry often have headaches because their body is working very hard to maintain itself in a state of stress. Anger brings on many physical changes including changes in blood pressure, nerves, heart rate, and body temperature.
A rush of adrenaline is released into the body which can cause a release of blood glucose, increase blood flow to the muscles and brain, or cause a release of certain hormones. The body may start to sweat, shake or feel nervous, their face may become flushed from their temperature rising, and they might begin to feel ill.
This process can significantly reduce blood flow through the vessels that bring oxygen and nutrients to the brain and heart. When those vessels are less than fully open, it can cause headaches in sensitive people. If there's been an injury in the past due to stress or anger then that could also be a reason for getting headaches when angry but they will likely be caused by something else.
Conclusion
Lots of things can trigger a person to become angry but the key is to stay calm and try to figure out why they're angry. Without knowing what's causing your anger, it's hard to know how to calm yourself down but it's also not healthy for you if you don't learn how to control your emotions.
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