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If you're not sure how to feminize your appearance and/or behavior, here are some approaches to try. Which ones work best for you will depend on various factors, from the role you want to play in your relationship, to what your partner wants.

This post includes:

-Basic female characteristics: The qualities that make a woman different from a man (e.g. submissiveness, vulnerability, dependability, emotionalism, etc.)

-Drawbacks: Things that make an attractive man different from a woman (e.g. confidence, dominance, strength, sexual assertiveness)

-Countermeasures: Things your partner can do to play to the strengths you don't have

-Special considerations for lipo/breast enlargement and some things you should know about them (e.g. breast sensitivity and how much bra padding/support you need)

Articles like this one are what keep me going day after day. Each one is written for a specific audience and is based on feedback I've gotten from my readers. It's amazing to get such detailed and personalized feedback from people about things that I've written about, as well as to learn of issues I haven't covered. This is what makes me feel like my time on this blog is being spent well.

One thing I've been asked about a lot is my take on feminization. There are a lot of post out there already (including one by yours truly and one that brings up some important points ), but most of them are quite short, and the reader comments suggest that there's a lot of confusion out there. This article aims to set some things straight and clear up any misconceptions about this highly important but often neglected subject.

I'll be centering things on male-to-female transsexuals, transvestites, and crossdressers, given my personal history with feminization. However, many of the principles can apply to other kinds of feminization as well (e.g. through body modification, hormone therapy, etc.).

A lot of people seem to think that some men start out as women and choose to become men later in life. This is something called "gender identity", which is the deep-seated, psychological sense a person has of being a particular gender. The idea that people can go through life without having any insight into their sex and gender at all strikes many people as absurd; indeed, the thought that one could be born a man but later decide he's actually a woman is so bizarre that some would say its only logical conclusion is madness.

These people have a hard time understanding how it's possible for a man to become a woman, because they view gender and sex as being on opposite ends of some sort of gender-sex spectrum. If you're born a man, then you can't be anything but a man, and vice versa (unless you went off the deep end). But for transsexuals and transvestites, this is not the case. These people don't really view themselves as one sex or the other, but as a blend of both sexes. They are more like an average person than the extreme ends of the spectrum (who may very well seem like alien creatures to them).

A lot of men seem to be under the impression that feminization = being girly = being like a woman. They don't want to be like women, so they think they shouldn't feminize themselves at all; they're not interested in becoming women and don't want to attract gay men. But I'm here to tell you that you can still be masculine and still have a feminine side. You can make yourself more attractive without having to change who you are as a person or selling out your entire identity in the process.

Women have certain female characteristics that make them more attractive than men. For example, being submissive and emotional is something most men find attractive, but few women do. Being sensitive is also something that would more often be associated with a woman than a man; this doesn't make it less masculine, however. It's just something that's not a priority for many men and doesn't appeal to them; most of this has to do with evolutionary psychology . Feminine qualities are the ones most likely to spark sexual attraction in women , so it makes sense that these would be the ones that men find most appealing .

Men also have some feminine characteristics (and vice versa). This is something that's well documented in psychology, anthropology, and sociology (e.g. the " gender complementarity " model by Dr. Elen E. White ). This means that the qualities most men find attractive in women make up what women find most attractive in men . Therefore, we can take advantage of this for our own purposes: If we learn how to play to the strengths that make us different from women but not necessarily less masculine, we can get more out of feminization than simply dressing like a woman or being a woman psychologically.

It's also important to note that there are various aspects of femininity that make for more than just sex appeal. They're also associated with things like social status and male-female relationships, so how we express these characteristics can be a lot more important than what they look like on the outside, especially for those of us who want to change our work lives, relationships with friends and family, etc.

Therefore, it's important to know what these feminine qualities are and how they play out in our lives. In the next section, I will talk about one of the most common groups of feminine characteristics and what they mean for a man: submissiveness and vulnerability .

Submissiveness

Submissiveness is a quality that's usually associated with being effeminate. It refers to a person who is non-threatening and vulnerable. These are all things we generally associate with women, but they're still male qualities, so men can still have them without being effeminate or gay.

This one is probably the easiest to understand, because it just means not being threatening.

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This one is a bit trickier because it's not as obvious and has nothing to do with physical appearance. However, this one is still very important, because it's the basis upon which many other characteristics are built. It's also something that women often find attractive, so this is an important aspect of feminization that men can't afford to ignore.

Submissiveness is associated with being sensitive, vulnerable (weak), and gentle, but it goes further than that: These are all things we'd associate with women, not men. When we think of "femininity", these are just some of the things that come to mind.

Another important feminine characteristic is being vulnerable. This doesn't mean being weak; it means being open and receptive to others, soft with emotions, and tender in disposition.

Submissiveness is something that a lot of men don't really think about because it's not a quality most men have much experience with and so don't see the point in trying to acquire it. However, there's a lot more to femininity than what people generally believe (e.g. womanly displays of physical weakness or vulnerability are also associated with higher social status). For example, feminine attributes are associated with social status and domination in hierarchical relationships. The same could be said for submissiveness in relationships.

Submissiveness is one of the most important aspects of femininity because it can help you get ahead in life. According to research from the field of psychology called Social Relationships, interpersonal power is highly correlated with one's own perception of social status , which is in turn a result of existing inequalities in society and culture ; there are people who have a higher chance of attaining power than others because they were born into situations that put them near the top of our global hierarchy: Adam Grant blogged about this , explaining how "people tend to associate social status with competence".

This isn't something that occurs in a vacuum.

In a patriarchal society (most of which are well known for being male-dominated), men who are naturally submissive and vulnerable can work to their advantage, because women like these qualities in men . Therefore, this is often the kind of man women will find attractive, which can lead to social status , power and influence. As I said before, there's nothing effeminate about being submissive; it's associated with a lot more than just sex appeal.

Therefore, this is one way feminization makes you stronger and helps you become more confident. But it's also just as important not to overdo it or you might come off as weak or overly vulnerable. This is something that women are much more prone to doing, which can lead to more problems than it solves (e.g. part of why so many men act the way they do and think the way they do is because women lead them).

However, this is not something you should try to hide from others or ignore; it's one of the most important characteristics of femininity. It's also a big part of why feminization is such an extreme and controversial concept.

Vulnerability doesn't just mean being soft and submissive; it also means being impressionable , friendly , agreeable , vulnerable , and dependent . According to Dr. Elen E. White, these are all qualities associated with weakness, the opposite of masculinity .

Vulnerability is something you need to understand in order to progress as a man. It's something you may not have much experience with because most men don't fall under the category of submissive or vulnerable and because these qualities are mostly associated with women. However, this doesn't mean there's anything wrong with being soft and submissive; it just means that there's nothing wrong with being masculine either. The reason so many people say there is is because femininity is defined by weakness and vulnerability more than masculinity. According to Dr. White, these are the qualities most people associate with femininity:

Weak, powerless, fragile and vulnerable

As you can see, these are all qualities that women have been associated with for a long time. Submissiveness is also something they traditionally prize in men, because it can give them a sense of "protection", or the illusion of protection, in their relationships with men - which is something they are often denied because of how patriarchal society has structured itself. Therefore, as I said before, this isn't just about sex appeal; it's much more than that.

Being weak, powerless, and fragile is not something to brag about because many people will simply see you as weak or vulnerable. But this is part of femininity and feminization and something that people will respect in you if you adopt these characteristics. You may even be seen as a "bitch" or "cuck" by your own family if they don't appreciate the direction your life is headed in.

But this doesn't mean you should be afraid to be sensitive; it's actually one of the most important things that helps women get ahead in life .

Being open, receptive, soft and friendly are all things that can help women gain social power in patriarchal societies. In some countries, these are even qualities associated with high social status and are encouraged in women by their male partners.

However, being soft and friendly is something that a lot of men have a hard time doing because it goes against everything they've been taught about what it means to be masculine. As I said before, this isn't about weakness; it's about being tender and delicate in disposition - which can be one of the most important aspects of feminization if you want to make yourself as attractive as possible to women .

Being submissive is something that many people associate with weakness. However, this doesn't mean being submissive makes you weak; it means the opposite: It makes you strong .

Many men feel the need to be dominant and in charge unless they're too afraid to be vulnerable and submissive. If this is you, then it may be more beneficial for you to think of feminization as a way to be softer and more receptive because this can lead to mental health problems if you don't have a good self image .

It's something that can cause you to lose respect from others and weaken the strength of your character because it doesn't make for a strong masculine persona. It's important for men who are seeking social change to begin with some kind of feminist education, regardless of their political views or beliefs about feminism or women.

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