Blaming Our Parents Is Easy
There are many factors that society views as being responsible for our upbringing. The media, the government, schools, and so on. But often when we blame our parents for something they did wrong or went wrong in their own upbringing; we forget to ask ourselves why it wouldn’t just be easier to grow up without them. It is easy to point a finger at adults whose backgrounds we don’t share but what about the adults who made us? Why do people still get angry over things their parents did not know about or have control over?
It might be time to stop blaming parents and start blaming ourselves for the decisions we make. The first thing to examine is the obvious reaction we all have when a child acts out: calling the parents bad parents. We all know that parenting does not come with a manual but common sense would suggest that if you hit your child, it will lead to more problems than it solves. But does anyone blame themselves for being angry or violent towards their own children? Of course not. It’s easy to blame your parents for things that go wrong in life but it also takes guts to admit you are responsible for your own actions. Then there are the parents who smoke or drink and have a baby. But why all of a sudden are they so bad? Similar to the above example, smoking is not good but it is completely legal. Why do we automatically think that this will affect the child? Again, you have no control over what your parents did when you were an infant.
But accidents happen and people make mistakes so why are we still so quick to point fingers at our parents? Why must we continue to blame them for things beyond their control when we make decisions on our own behalf? Perhaps if people had the courage to accept ownership over their actions; then perhaps children would not be yelling at their parents for something that was out of their control.
BLAME NOT OUR PARENTS
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by Amy Sancetta – 1/11/2015.[ARTICLE END]
By Amy Sancetta – 1/12/2015.[ARTICLE BEGIN]
Dear Father, I’m sorry for the ways I have let you down since you first gave birth to me in this world. I’m sorry for skipping church on my mother’s day, when I should have remembered her birthday (which happened on Sunday), and for not doing more chores around the house. I’m sorry for not listening to your words of wisdom about playing sports, about never going too far away from home, about being nice to people and helping others.
Most of all, I'm sorry for the times I have yelled at you. I know you are a wonderful father who loves me dearly and has worked hard throughout his life to give us everything we have today. But I am sorry for all of the times I have taken that love, that hard work, and that wisdom and used them to yell at you when you did something wrong.
The truth is, Father, it has been a lot easier for me to yell at you than to ask you what I did wrong. Heck Father, it has been much easier for me to blame my shortcomings on you than to accept responsibility for my actions. That's why I'm here today. Will you please forgive me?
And if not now, then when?
I'm sorry for all of the time—and especially in recent months—that I have blamed instead of asking for help from those around me. I know this isn't right, and it certainly isn't how you raised me.
I'm sorry for all of the times that I have told you I knew something when I didn't. Because of this, you ended up helping me out even more than you already do. You have always been there to support me with whatever I needed, be it a job or money or just someone to talk to when things weren't working out at home. You have given me chances and opportunities that other people would not even bother giving me because they think I can't make it work on my own, or because they don't believe in my ability to succeed.
But Father, I've failed you. I have failed you more than I have any of the other people who claim they want to help me succeed, or even than all of the times when I told you that I just don't understand why things aren't working out for me.
I'm sorry for all of the times I yelled at those around me because they had a different opinion on what was best for me. And then when they were right, didn't give me much of a choice as to whether or not to listen to them.
And most of all, Father—I'm sorry that in my quest for money and power and success, I cannot even see what is right in front of my eyes. I have not once put aside what the Bible says about money and success. I may have made some money—but I can't even begin to think of it in terms of what would be good for others. And when others tell me that they don't want to pay me a certain amount of money, I will sometimes yell at them instead of considering why they might not want to pay this type of salary.
I'm sorry that in a quest for power and respect, I have yelled at people who were just trying to help me make this world a better place. Most especially, I'm sorry that in a bid for power and respect, I yelled at you more than once.
I know Father, that was wrong. You've been very patient with me, and it is clear that you have been willing to help me every step of the way. If I ask for money for something for your church or school, you have always given it to me. And if I haven't asked, you've given me all of the time that I would like regardless of what I was doing.
But Father, this has all changed now. Because of my difficult relationship with my mother and my own mistakes, it has become tougher on me to consider whether or not there might be some things that need fixing in our home. But I can't only blame my mistakes on the problems with my mother. She is not just an excuse for my own failings. The fact of the matter is, most of the time I'm yelling at you because I can't handle it on my own. And yet, to you this is not hard to bear. You continue to help me out no matter how many times I yell at you or how many times I say things that hurt your feelings.
I am very sorry Father.
I know Father that every time I fail, it hurts your heart and makes it even harder for me to succeed in life.
Conclusion
The above article shows us that we are responsible for our behavior as well as the things we say. We are also held responsible by the people around us. In today's society, many people break up with their parents if they have done something wrong and then blame them for a long time.
But guess what? It is never too late for us to apologize for our behavior and words. We are all humans and we need forgiveness from God and our Creator, Jehovah Jireh .