Coaching – Recognizing The Tipping Point
Ready to take the next step with your coaching business? There's a whole lot more to coaching than just being an expert in what you do. You need to be able to identify the tipping point in every project, relationship, and situation.
Learn the five rules for recognizing this crucial moment and how it can make all the difference for you and those around you!
In today's post, we'll be going over some tips on how to recognize your own tipping point from a coach’s perspective - something that's easy if you know what signs are pointing towards it.
For those of you who've been following this blog for a while, this concept might be familiar to you. In fact, if you go back to episode #4 of the Master Ninjas podcast , we discussed it at length there as well.
First off, what exactly is a tipping point from a coaching perspective? It's important to note that recognizing the tipping point is not something that can be done in every situation and different people will react differently to different situations. In fact, most people won't even realize they've hit their own tipping point until long after they've already passed it. It's just how human nature works unfortunately.
But what is a tipping point? What makes it so special to master? Let's first break it down into its component parts and then we'll describe some real world examples.
Tipping Point = The Moment When One Thing Becomes Two
The precise moment when you realize that you have hit your own personal tipping point is the moment when the end of one thing becomes the beginning of something completely different. And this is important because a lot of people will keep going after that light at the end of their tunnel because they just don't realize that there are other things out there for them. They're stuck in their own tunnel vision and can't see what's on the other side.
In other words, they think they're the only one in the room. Therefore, it's important that you identify your own tipping point so that you can let your clients know when you've reached yours to make sure that they don't continue on with their mistakes after the fact and let their business suffer.
The reason people keep looking for the light at the end of their tunnel is because we have a default setting for our brain to look for rewards or rewards that are just around the corner. When this happens, we'll do everything in our power to get to them and will even put off doing things that need to get done when we think we're close enough to make things happen.
The key to overcoming this human nature is to be aware of it in the first place so that you can make a conscious choice about what you want to do with it. In other words, you're not going to stop looking for light at the end of your tunnel completely, but you will stop when it's time.
In our next example, we'll explain more about how this applies in a real world setting. Imagine that you're working as an employee at a large corporation one day and suddenly realize that you've hit your tipping point after talking to some friends. They tell you that they've struck out on their own and are making more money than they ever have before.
Suddenly, you wake up to the fact that the corporate life isn't for you. You want to be working on your own terms, on your own time and in a way that makes you happy. You start looking for ideas on how you can make this happen and then one day it all comes together. The idea is perfect and suddenly everything changes. This is what I call a personal tipping point because it's different for everyone.
The same process applies if you're coaching others as well - including coaches who coach other coaches. Just because you don't have your own business doesn't mean that you can't reach a tipping point as well. In fact, most people who are coaches hit their own tipping point and then decide to help others reach theirs. They're using the same process that they used when they were struggling with their own goals, so the transition is easy for them.
But are there any commonalities in reaching your tipping point? How do you know when to take the right next step? That's what we'll be discussing in our next section - along with a few real world examples so that you can see how this works in different situations and situations where it doesn't work at all.
Commonalities In Reaching Your Tipping Point as a Coach
I want to be clear on a couple of things when we're talking about reaching your tipping point. First off, every person is going to hit their own tipping point for a variety of reasons. So you can't say "You're not ready for the next step" because the reasons why someone is ready or not can vary greatly from one person to another. Second, there's an important distinction between how you might hit your own tipping point and how you might impact someone else's.
That's because your tipping point might not be their tipping point. However, there are a few commonalities that you do need to look for when trying to determine whether or not someone is ready for the next step in their life. So what are these commonalities? We'll explain them right now!
1 - You're Ready When You Realize That You're Accomplishing Your Goals and Dreams on YOUR Terms.
This is one of the biggest reasons that people don't recognize their own tipping points. They think they're doing everything they can to accomplish a set of goals and dreams and then suddenly realize that it's not going as well as they thought it would be.
In other words, they're doing everything that they can to get what they want, but it's not working out the way that they had hoped. Instead of figuring this out on their own and acting accordingly, they keep running in circles. They don't realize the problem. They keep looking for the light at the end of their tunnel thinking that if only things were different then things would go right for them.
This is yet another reason why you have to be prepared for when someone you're coaching hits their own tipping point so that you can help them through it and make sure that it's not a deal breaker for them. You can't help someone past their own tipping point if they're not yet ready for it.
2 - You Make It Happen When You Let Them Know That It's Time To Change.
This is another reason that people don't recognize their own tipping points because they keep going out into the world and doing the same things they've been doing before even if they know it isn't working. If you're someone who is reading this then I'm sure you have your own inner voice that keeps telling you to go out there and work harder to be successful in your life so that you can finally make it happen and get what you always wanted.
Conclusion
Those are a few of the more common reasons that people don't recognize their own tipping points. Of course, there are a variety of other reasons why someone might not recognize the point when they've hit it. For example, you might be so caught up with your own life and goals that you're not paying attention to what other people are saying.
This means that they can say whatever they want and you won't hear it because your nose is buried too far in the sand. This also means that you might have to help someone else figure out how to recognize their own tipping point so that they can follow up on their goals afterwards.