Create Win/win Outcomes And Relationships
People want to work for those who want for them. It feels great when your boss sees you as a valuable asset and not just the next person willing to work for free. Altruism is a thorny issue because most people don't know how to accept what they need from others, especially when it comes from their bosses. In order to establish trust, win/win outcomes must be created. They create more productivity overall with more short-term gains versus long term losses and builds good will so no one walks away feeling taken advantage of or manipulated. Trust is powerful and productive. Whenever there is mistrust in the workplace, everyone suffers.
You may not be able to afford to give your staff everything they want, but you do have the ability to accede to some of their requests. Setting up win/win outcomes with your staff requires you to know what they want and then you work together so they get it while still staying within budget.
No matter what business you are in, there are always articles that tell managers how important it is for them to create win/win outcomes with their employees. The logic is sound; a happy worker is a productive worker, who will stick around longer and perform better than an unhappy one. Unfortunately, this logic rarely applies in the real world. Most workers are so used to being squeezed and manipulated by the capitalist system that they bring that same attitude into the workplace. After all, the side of the relationship businessmen want to be on is the side where they derive all of the benefits.
After years of being told that someone always goes home with a winner and someone goes home with a loser, it's hard for many people to accept anything less than a win/lose outcome.For example, in contract negotiations many people assume if they can't get everything they want then there's no point in getting anything at all...The resulting standoff may prevent them from getting anything .
Unfortunately, most bosses have been taught from birth not to give up anything unless they absolutely have to. The reason is that if they give up more than they have to, they may lose the ability to get more. That's why a lot of bosses will try to set up win/win outcomes with their staff, but when it comes down to it, they're still going to be dictating what happens. They simply want the outcome that makes them "win."
The good news is you don't have to do this any more. You can specifically ask for what you need and get exactly that without sacrificing anything else in the process...And you can do this without feeling like your asking for too much.
When you work with people, be specific about what they want and how they want it. Question your staff as to what they need and as to how they would do a better job if you gave them the resources. Remember that being specific about what you need is a win/win scenario for everyone involved.
Be cautious of what people say and do from a fear of appearing "greedy" or parti...eipating in the wrong side of relationships, especially when your boss has pushed you into this union. Being asked for something doesn't have to make you feel like you're being manipulated into doing something that's wrong.
"Asking for something doesn't make you a bad person. Being manipulated into doing something that's wrong makes you a bad person."
This is why people who ask for something are seen as the "greedy or liars" in relationships; they are not specific about what they want and they're not clear about what their boss has to do so they can get it. In return, their boss reacts to them with suspicion because he doesn't know how he should react to them and he's afraid of looking like he's "frauding" himself. He'd much rather be manipulating someone else than his own staff.
What we hear on the news day after day is how many people feel being manipulated by others...And it doesn't help that the news is owned by corporations that want to keep you manipulated and in debt. They want to keep you doing what they say and they want to bully you into doing what they say, but all of this manipulation is getting harder and harder to do.
However, your staff isn't the only ones who are being manipulated. You are being manipulated too...And if you'd like to feel a little bit better about yourself, then realizing this fact will help you get started.
If your staff is being manipulated and if they're also aware of it (although they may not be), then this means there's nothing wrong with them asking for something because that's how we all get started... If a child asks for something, then that's how they learn to ask for it again and again. If an adult asks for something, that's how they get their first close call or two... And so on.
In order to establish trust, you need to be willing to give people what they want, when they want it…And when the time is right, you need to be willing to teach them how and what you want them do it better themselves by giving them the resources and training they need.
You are not a bad person because you asked someone else for something... You're just giving someone else a chance at getting closer while still staying in control of who you share your wealth with.
"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
When you have a chance to do good, do it .
Remember that this business was built out of a desire for freedom and getting as close as possible to the source of all capital so you can avoid the middleman and get more for yourself. That's why you've been working for less than what you're worth for years and years...If someone tries to tell you otherwise, then they're either lying or they think you're stupid. You don't believe people who lie, right? And no one thinks they're stupid; everyone thinks they know everything already.
Break free from the control of corporations who want to keep you in debt...You don't need to stay a slave any longer.
"Freedom isn't free, but it's priceless." ~ Lauryn Hill
You won't get anywhere by playing a game that has you killing and being killed for someone else's profit.
The only real way to establish trust is to make it happen for yourself. Trying to manipulate others will only cause you harm and create an outcome in which you never fully get what you want or expect. This is why so many people are sick of being manipulated...Because they're unhealthy and treating themselves like a commodity rather than a person who matters...And they're frustrated at the lack of respect they get from others because they think everyone thinks they're "nothing. "
Stop being so hard on yourself about being manipulated or "used" by others. Aspire to be a person who's manipulated by and for himself, not for or against anyone else. You will always get what you want when you start asking, not because of what others think of you, but because you believe that this is how everyone should conduct their lives and all people will benefit from it in the end. No one can truly hurt you if they don't know where to find you...So keep your circle of trust tight, be very selective with your connections and make sure that everyone who needs something gets it.
"Good judgment comes from experience.
Conclusion
People who ask for something will be seen as the "greedy" or the "liars" by others. However, it's not very efficient to keep all your things for yourself when you are being exploited and manipulated. There's no need to give all your money away just so you can control a person's body and their emotions; there are much better ways to achieve this that don't involve using people like they're a product.
Giving away all your money is a great way to lose money and giving away all your time is a great way to lose health...And there will be no end in sight if you continue doing this.