Self Help And Your Self Esteem
Stress is becoming an increasingly common problem in today’s society. It is not just the stress of our daily lives, which can be overwhelming, but also the worry that we are bothering others with our problems and never feel like we are good enough. If you want to know how to lower your stress levels and bring up your self-esteem, then this blog post is for you. I have been successful in lowering my own stress and raising my self-esteem so I thought I would impart some of what I learned along the way.
This article is intended to help readers to understand the first stage of dealing with stress, which is that you need to realise you are stressed and take steps to alleviate this problem.
As I examine myself over the years, I have always been confident in my abilities, but that confidence can be put into jeopardy when something happens out of my control. I am a highly intelligent man, with a great memory, but I have had friends and colleagues tell me that they think I am modest. When I was younger, my grades were always great and teachers often told me how bright I was. Yet when it came to exams, my confidence could be shaken if the questions didn’t go in the way that I expected them too or if someone else in the class seemed to be ahead of me in being able to solve the problem.
Nobody likes to be criticised and I would often get defensive when someone would make a comment that I didn’t think was warranted. When you are stressed, you are more likely to get into arguments, which is quite natural. If someone criticises you, it is human nature to be defensive and fight back.
Fighting in itself can cause more stress because then you have negative thoughts about the other person and yourself. You may have a lot of anxiety about the argument itself or the fact that one person has said something rude.
If you want to bring down your negative thoughts about yourself and about people, then the first step is to realise that you are being stressed. The second step is to try to combat this stress by increasing your positive thinking.
By thinking positively, you are tricking your subconscious mind into believing that there will be no negative or hurtful things said about you and that other people like the person they really are.
I have found that you can become more confident and happy when you think positively. You will be listening to positive self-talk which is a great way to build your confidence.
For me, there is always a part of myself that thinks I am being too optimistic and that I don’t believe in myself. I remember writing about my stress one night and I had to make a decision about whether I was going to be optimistic or not.
I decided that I would not speak negatively about myself and that I would constantly remind myself of all the good things about myself. I would think "I am intelligent, successful, an easy person to get along with, a nice man who is always willing to help people out".
By doing this, I was able to bring down my negative thoughts about myself and have a lot more self-confidence. The main thing is to realise that we are not supposed to be perfect and that everybody has their bad days where they make mistakes or say things that hurt others.
I have always been lucky in life and I have had some wonderful opportunities. I am a very hard worker and it is true what they say, "hard work pays off".
I had a boss who was generous and kind to me and I learned a lot from him. He would come up to me and say "You really have an amazing memory". After he said this, I started to think "wow, he really thinks that my memory is amazing."
You have to realise that other people are not always going to see you as an amazing person or a great friend. They may have their own opinions about you but it is important that you say things out loud positively. This will help you build up your confidence and believe in yourself.
Try to think about the good things about yourself at all times. Don’t worry about the thoughts in your head of "I am not good enough". Even if those thoughts are negative, at least you will be taking steps to combat them by constantly telling yourself positive things. Try to remind yourself of all of the good things that you have done and are doing in life.
Conclusion: Overall this was a pretty good article on readability. He gets straight to the point in the first paragraph and it's to-the-point without too many words. I like how he talks about real life situations that raise stress levels for most people and some simple solutions that one can take to bring them back down, and how improving one's self esteem will help combat stress. There were quite a few grammatical errors but they didn't affect my reading of the material so it's fine..