The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Understand 'Don't, Not or No'
What happens when your mind is so laser-focused on what you don't want, that you are missing opportunities with other people and things? You may have heard of the Law of Attraction but do you know the "Law of Don't"?
The Law of Don't states that your lack energy attracts more lack. The Law of Not state that by saying "I don’t want this person, thing or situation" about something in your life, it only becomes stronger because it's what you're focusing on. And the last Law is the infamous "No" law...
So how do you get rid of what you don’t want? You simply don't focus on it. You stop saying "I don't want this" and start saying "This is what I want". You start saying "No" instead of the dreaded "I don’t want that". And as for that pesky 'law' about attracting more of what you're focusing on...well, if you've been following my blog for whatever reason, then chances are you've probably been following me for a while now and know how I feel about it (so let's not go there)...
Let's look at this a little closer shall we? Let's imagine that your goal is to find a soul mate. You're so focused on finding a soul mate that you don't get any kind of intimate relationship at all. But then you say to yourself, I'm just going to be celibate until I find my soul mate. Doesn't sound too bad right? But let's look deeper...
You're not open to any kind of relationship because all you care about is finding your soul mate. You have made 3 main statements:
1) I Don’t want anyone but my soul mate - and by the way, my soul mate is hard to find, so I better not settle for anything less.
2) If I can’t find a soul mate, no one will do.
3) I wish for my soul mate to come into my life - and I’m not looking for anyone else right now.
What is your subconscious going to attract? Who can live up to these goals? Who would want you when no one even comes close to what you want? You are putting out energy that says 'I don't want these people' and "I don't want the things that they're offering me right now'. You're closing yourself off. And guess what? The Law of Attraction is going to hear you and send you exactly what you're attracting.
So then, if you say 'I don't want this kind of relationship and I don't want that' to a potential lover, guess what? You're going to get a relationship or situation that ISN'T THE ONE THAT YOU WANT! You may just not be attuning with the right person or situation for your soul mate right now, but it's NOT because he doesn't like your body or wants something different. It's simply because he isn't ready yet.
So, if you're listening...if you want a change in your life, if you're tired of attracting what you don't want and SICK of your life not changing and getting better...then stop saying "I don't want this". Don’t say "I don't want that guy/girl", or "I'm just not attracted to that person". If someone asks you out and you say 'No' do it from a place of appreciation not from a place of fear or denial.
Start saying:
“This is what I really really really really really really really really really really want" (even repeat it 10 times) when it comes to relationships. And then watch what happens. You will have to have more courage, trust and faith in yourself. You must leave the past behind. Change your thoughts and you'll change your life.
If you have goals to meet, a new house or car, get a raise at work, or go back to school, then start saying "I really really really want this" (even repeat it 10 times). Be sure you're saying it from a place of appreciation and not fear or denial. Don't worry about saying it 'right'. This will be your mantra for this project so do it as many times as possible per day until you believe the words coming out of your mouth.
Then notice if there is any resistance to this idea...get to know the resistance. It's your job to become more aware and conscious of what is going on inside of you and around you. When you have resistance, it means that you are fighting something you want to be.
The Law of Don't, Not or No is an ever present part of your life that will always bring more lack into your life...you must say "No" to saying "I don't want this". But when you change your language, when you start saying 'yes' instead...you'll go from the Law of Not to the Law of Yes. And when you go from the Law of Yes to the Law of Yes, you'll become what you want instead of what you don't want.
"The Law Of Attraction" can also be interpreted as "The Law of Abundance" because it focuses on positive affirmations and sending out positive vibes.
Never forget that your thoughts become words and then becomes energy and then becomes things in your life. Whatever you choose to focus on will become stronger than anything else...so make sure that your energy is going into the right direction and not crossing over into negative beliefs or ways of thinking or actions.
When you change your words and your thoughts, you attract more of the stuff that you want. When you start attracting more success, more love and a better life...you're on your way to enjoying the Law of Attraction.
Conclusion
So the next time you find yourself saying "I don't want this or that" about something in your life or someone you're with...stop. And start saying "This is what I want". Use affirmations and statements of gratitude to say what it is you really really really really really really really want. More than anything else, start to truly believe this change will occur. Trust that it's going to work, that the right person will come into your life and that everything will be okay.
Say these things to yourself over and over again until they become your reality, until you attract all of the stuff that you want. And never forget...