Art of Flirting
In a romantic scenario, one must make their approach in a subtle, yet strong way. Flirting has the potential to be one of the best ways to impress someone over the phone or in person. It’s always fun when done in a creative or entertaining manner, and most importantly it is almost impossible to misinterpret because there are non-verbal cues as well as verbal cues. If you can master these subtle techniques, you will be able to use them for both your personal and professional life. You don’t have to worry about going overboard or being too cocky. The main point is to make someone feel comfortable around you, and enjoy your company.
As with any form of persuasion, art of flirting starts off with a solid opening line. You should first try to get the person to feel comfortable by approaching them in a playful manner, without coming on too strong. It might seem obvious, but the main reason that people don’t flirt is that they think it is going to be uncomfortable for the other person. The best way to alleviate this fear is to approach the person in a way that expresses confidence and playfulness at once. A good way of example might be to wink at them, and then make some sort of comment about being late or something, and play around with it. This will put them in a state where they have to respond similarly and based on the way you approach it, can either result in a great conversation or flirting.
While talking to the person you should be sure to keep eye contact. This might sound like common sense, but sometimes people get too caught up in the conversation that they lose their focus. Eye contact is not only important for making the other person feel comfortable, but also showing them that you are confident as well as keeping a healthy attention span. If you’re not sure how to do this, try moving your gaze from left to right, or seriously thinking about the conversation for a moment. Watching and keeping anyone’s eye is a way of saying that you are interested in communicating with them. It also shows that you are attentive enough to notice more than just the words they have said. A great example of flirting through eye contact would be playing around with a compliment such as “You have absolutely gorgeous eyes”. If a person is unsure on how to act in this situation, they will be tempted to look away and be embarrassed by it. You can then follow up on this by saying “No really, I wish I had eyes like yours”. Eye contact shows that you are a confident person and that you are sure of what comes out of your mouth. It is one of the best ways to approach flirting or communicating with someone in general.
Another way to flirt with a person is through touch. This can be a bit risky, depending on if the situation allows it or not. In most cases, touch should be the final phase of flirting before going into something more serious. To start off with this, you should try to make the person feel comfortable around you. A good way to do this is by asking them a question that they would have to lean towards you to view, or by sitting in a way that they lean towards you. You should then get closer and wait for the other person to move away, but possibly in a subtle manner, as if they are trying not to let it be noticed. After doing this, you can then try touching the back of their shoulder with your palm. This will let them know that you are interested in more than just their company and it is another good way of flirting without being too forceful about it. The key here is subtlety and confidence.
After you have touched the other person in some way, you are now free to move on to more intimate contact. This could be holding their hand or gently putting your arm around them. The key here is that you should never make the first move in these situations. This can be quite risky, so you might want to demonstrate interest by looking at the person and then waiting for them to look back. This sort of approach shows that you are interested in them and not just trying to tease or hurt them in any way. You can then try to get close and whisper something into their ear like “I really like talking to you” or “Wow, we have a lot in common”. You could also try complimenting them directly like “No one has ever told me that I’m beautiful before”. These are just a few examples of the things you can say to people. If a person is uncomfortable about these situations, you can still make subtle advances by starting to move closer to them and whispering something into their ear. This is usually the best way to go if you want to flirt without it being too bold of an approach.
If everything has been done initially well, there should be no problem switching from flirting to having a serious conversation or trying to impress someone over the phone or in person. As long as you are still confident and have a good sense of humor, you should be able to get the person to talk to you. There are many different forms of flirting that work well on someone, and they can often be used in more than just the specified ways. It’s important to remember that most people in this world are not very sexually inclined so it might take some practice before you are able to flatter them with your sexual advances. Also remember that when flirting is over it’s important not to get too aggressive or grab someone if they say no. If a situation like this arises, it might be best if you try to step back and keep your composure so as not to embarrass yourself. Another thing to keep in mind is that flirting is about confidence, so if you are not sure about a situation or don’t think that it will work, it probably won’t. It is also important not to be arrogant when flirting. People will often lose interest in you quickly if you are too pushy or cocky and don’t show any interest in their well being. If they start to act like they aren’t interested after all, it might be best just to let them go and leave them alone so as not to disrupt their life any more than you have.
If all else fails and a person seems absolutely uninterested, there is one final way you can flirt with them. This is by initiating a conversation with the person yourself. As the saying goes, “It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it that counts.” So if all else fails and a person seems to be completely uninterested in flirting, try talking to them yourself. If this works out well then that would mean that they are interested in talking to you. You can then convince them as much as you have convinced others before to give you their number and have a few dates or even go on a date with them. This is called being an Open Setter and is also something that should be practiced by all flirters.
Conclusion:
Flirting has been a part of human nature for a very long time. It is a way for us to find out who we can associate with in our lives. It is also used by people to have fun and even to put a smile on someone’s face because of something silly or even romantic that was said. By knowing how to flirt, you are more confident in yourself and are able to communicate with others better, which is the key to almost everything in life. “The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary”-Vidal Sassoon Flirting will not be an instant cure for all your problems, but it can help you achieve what you want in life.
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