The Prosperity In Forgiveness
There are two types of people in the world: those who need to be forgiven, and those who need to forgive. We all interact with both kinds every day. It can be difficult not to take things personally when someone is constantly making demands on you or taking advantage of your generosity. But when you take a step back, it’s clear that forgiveness is an investment in your own peace of mind and well-being, as well as the well-being of the other person. The question is, how do you get over the memories of hurt and resentment to embrace forgiveness?
Have you ever noticed that forgiveness is not free? When you forgive someone, you are living a lie. You are lying to yourself that he or she is okay, when deep in your heart of hearts, you know the truth. The cost of forgiving can lead to depression, anxiety and other health problems.
The first step to forgiving your ungrateful child is coming face-to-face with your own issue. It’s always easier for me to forgive others than myself. Once we have forgiven ourselves for our mistakes or wrongdoings, it’s much easier to extend our forgiveness toward others in similar situations.
Another key trait for forgiveness is empathy for others. Being able to put yourself in the shoes of someone you are mad at or disappointed in can help you the most when making a decision to forgive. Knowing what it is like to be mistreated or abused will help you understand why other people may behave the way that they do.
The third step to forgiving your ungrateful child is being accountable. Being accountable means taking responsibility for your actions and showing gratitude to others even if they aren’t grateful. Take responsibility for what you did, apologize and don’t make excuses by blaming someone else.
It’s important to forgive your ungrateful child because it’s in your best interest. We all want to live in a society where people are forgiving, kind and helpful to one another. Lives built on forgiveness and love are better places for everyone to be.
Do you have an ungrateful child? Over the next few weeks, I will share some tips for forgiving him or her. And I will share stories about other people who have forgiven my ungrateful children and me. Just think about what it would mean for all of us if we learned how to forgive each other, and live more simply, peaceably and respectfully with one another.
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* "ungrateful" - I have taken a friend's word for this definition since I am not familiar with the technical terms used in psychology and psychiatry to label people who lie about their emotions of negative things occurring in their lives or other people.
* "ungrateful" - I have taken a friend's word for this definition since I am not familiar with the technical terms used in psychology and psychiatry to label people who lie about their emotions of negative things occurring in their lives or other people.
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Conclusion
Refusing to forgive a parent or caregiver who has been unkind to you is an emotional problem and the cause of that refusal can be found in the ungrateful child's own childhood. Your ungrateful childhood might have been one of being unappreciated, unloved and finally told to "get over it" when you were grieving. Your parents probably did not mean it but they were probably frustrated by their inability to control their own urges and emotions, especially when they had made a mistake. They also might have felt guilty, ashamed and embarrassed about becoming angry or disappointed with you and might have believed that their anger was justified because you were human after all, therefore subject to occasional misbehavior.