3 Reasons to Stop Being a People Pleaser
For most, having a desire to please people is one of the best things about being human. Since we're programmed to want approval and acceptance, it's natural to try and please people while they're around you. It's just how the game has been played for years. But in reality, people pleasers can really put themselves and those close to them at risk by staying stagnant in their relationships or careers—and not all of them are obvious, either! That's why it's time for us to do something different and find new ways of being our best selves through an empowered approach that helps others without sacrificing ourselves.
It's been said that "people pleasers are like moths to a flame," because no matter what the pain, we're drawn to the people who can bring out the best and worst of us. But as much as we may wish they were different, those who are people pleasers are often too afraid to change or go after their dreams. I think the reason why is because in order for us to be our best, we have to be willing to take risks and live life on our own terms—no one else's. Just like butterflies, the people who will find their bliss are the ones flying.
To be a people pleaser is to grow complacent. As much as we might like to believe that what's good for others shouldn't hurt us, neglecting ourselves in order to satisfy others' needs can actually lead to our own unhappiness and sense of self-sabotage down the line. That's because we tie our emotions and confidence to how others feel about us, instead of truly living a life that we ultimately choose ourselves. Self-doubt, anxiety, and depression are just some of the things that can follow when we try to please everyone else at the expense of ourselves.
But what good does it do to always be so concerned with how others feel about us? The real challenge is how to make changes that allow us to feel confident and strong while still giving others the comfort they desire—without compromising our own desires. That's where my journey comes in, because it's only when I learned how to create balance in my life that I truly found myself.
3 Reasons to Stop Being a People Pleaser
1. People pleasers are our own worst enemies.
I'm sure I speak for many people who are worked up about this, but the fact is that by putting ourselves first, we can actually find more fulfillment in both our personal and professional lives—and maintain more of our true selves at the same time. And because it's much easier to focus on others' needs, we can make changes and improvements that allow us to be our best selves.
2. We're too busy being concerned with pleasing others.
The problem with people pleasers is we get so involved in making sure everyone else is comfortable and happy that we forget to focus on ourselves and what could ultimately make us happy, too. But by connecting with yourself instead of others, you'll be able to get back to knowing why you're doing things in the first place. And when you're able to find your passions, you'll also be able to let go of how people feel about you—and start being authentically caring for yourself and others at the same time!
3. People pleasers trap us in a cycle of self-sabotage.
There are so many people pleasers who are too afraid to start their own lives, because they're so accustomed to pleasing others that they've forgotten who they truly are. By making your number-one priority to be comfortable and happy in your own skin, you'll be able to start breaking out of the cycle of self-sabotage. And because when you're able to stand up for yourself, you'll also find it easier to help others, instead of focusing on what you can do that might make them unhappy.
If we truly want a life of happiness and fulfillment, then it's time we all started putting ourselves first—without expecting anything in return.
~Mardi
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DEDICATION AND ACKNOWLEDGMENTS…………………………………………………………………………..….2
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: MARDI GRAS MUSIC ……………………………………………………………….……...3
HOW TO PRONOUNCE MARDI GRAS MUSIC …........................................................................................…..9
DEDICATION……………………………………………………………………………………………….10
ABOUT THIS BOOK………………………………………………………………...................................11
Dedication
This book is dedicated to all the people in my life who have supported me and encouraged me to pursue my dreams. I wouldn't be where I am today without all of your support. To those who have helped me write this book, I can’t thank you enough! Although it wasn't easy, I'm so happy that I was able to reach my dream and share knowledge with so many other people about how to be a strong independent woman with confidence. You all changed my life! Thank you for believing in me and treating me with love, care, and respect.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: MARDI GRAS MUSIC …
Hi, I'm Mardi Gras Music! I'm the founder of a New Jersey based company called MardiGrasMusic.com. The purpose of this site is to provide a resource for people who want to learn about Mardi Gras music in the New Orleans area. I want this website to help you learn about the bands, the events, and even how to sign up for gigs with these great bands. My desire is that my site will eventually become your online musical hub for all things related to Mardi Gras music .