Mothers & Daughters, Sells & Buyers
I am going to tell you the harsh truth that a lot of mothers never want to hear. You need your daughter, and she needs you. She needs your love, guidance, and protection from the world out there. But she doesn't need you holding her hand through life or wasting her time with every little thing that might go wrong in the world today.
The same goes for parents who are looking for a house, car or anything else for their daughter. You don't need to find the perfect home, car or cell phone for your daughter. What you need to do is make sure that you have had a frank talk with her about choices and responsibility before you begin shopping.
It's sad but increasingly common for parents and even grandparents to go car shopping with their teen-age daughters. In some cases, the parents will be driving; in others, it will be their daughter's boyfriend or just a couple of teenage friends who are along for the ride.
What could possibly go wrong? With older children, there is also a growing trend among parents of putting money aside in a college fund and giving this money as "a down payment" on real estate purchases. This way, the parent, of course, has more time to do more research on housing markets and is therefore more likely to find a good piece of property that their child will want.
But, as parents should know by now, all this game playing can actually destroy a family's chances for success.
It is also not uncommon for parents and grandparents to help out their children or grandchildren in buying a house or car. In some cases it is being done with the best intentions; other times it may be because the parent or grandparent wants something for themselves out of the deal.
Truthfully, there are few occasions when it does not work against you. This is especially true when you are dealing with the buying or selling real estate. It is a rare occasion when you can find a home that your daughter will love and one that she can afford.
The truth is, most people who have actually gone through this experience have found that the problems in being killed rather than finding good deals just made it all the more difficult for them to decide what to do.
When your daughter comes home from school, ask her where she wants to live, with whom, and see if she has any adult friends who might help her out. She should be able to tell you who her friends are and what she wants out of life. It's truly amazing how many parents have no idea where their children are at this time in their lives.
You can do the same thing with real estate. You need to find out where your daughter is going to school, if she has any family, and what kind of work she is going to do in the future. The best way to learn about your daughter's life as it relates to real estate is by talking and listening to her.
This may sound overly simple, but it is more than that. If you talk to your daughter and listen to what she has to say, chances are you will know where she stands on a whole host of issues that affect her life.
Like all parents are asking themselves, "Is my daughter getting the right kind of education?" If she is progressing in school at the same rate as other kids her age, chances are you have done all you can do for her. But, if your child is behind in school or needs extra help from teachers and counselors in order to keep up with her classwork and progress through school, then it's time for some added help from mom or dad.
If your daughter is finding better paying jobs, then you should give her a break on her allowance or take some of the money she has been saving for college and put it toward the down payment on a home. Ask for what you want as payback and make it clear that you want to help your daughter secure a place of her own.
It's also important to talk to your daughter about her future at an early age. If she is incapable of making good decisions, then let's rethink the entire plan. You see, this is not only good advice but it is absolutely essential if your child has anything resembling a future.
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