No More Selling Scripts? 5 Ways to Be Yourself Again
I don't know about you, but I find myself hiding in my room more often than not. It's not for lack of things to do or places to go--I simply can't muster the courage. Without a push from somebody else, when I walk around feeling like an introvert at times and an extrovert at others--I find it tough to make myself socialize with people.
It's important though! I can't just be antisocial all the time just because it feels better sometimes. I need to find my inner strength again, and start being the social butterfly I used to be.
The following article is all about doing just that. In truth, it's more of how to start living again, and how to recover from depression--but hey, sometimes we just need a smile than anything else.
Let's see what you can do for yourself!
FIRST THINGS FIRST: A STARTUP LABS GUIDE FOR INNER-CHALLENGED INTELLIGENCE (ICHI) [INFOGRAPHIC]
The first thing most people do when they're feeling overwhelmed or depressed is they look outside themselves for help, like their parents or teachers or friends. And sometimes, this is the right way to go about things.
But this isn't the only way to do things. If you find yourself with no idea of where to turn and seemingly no options, sometimes it's better for you to put your focus back on yourself and your feelings.
Here's a guide that will let you know how to start living again.
I'm talking about things that will help you recover from depression and bring out the social butterfly you used to be.
Start talking to yourself!↓ I'm sure a lot of people have been asking the same question: "How can I find my inner-strength?" or "How can I find my confidence again?" If you are in the same place where you're asking these questions and want advice, all you have to do is read this article. It's all about starting over, and finding your strength. Here's how:
1.) Become more introverted . Having problems talking to people? Sometimes, it's easier to talk to yourself. Think about it--when you talk to yourself, you can say whatever you want and there won't be anyone else to judge you. Say what's on your mind, and let the words flow. It's a great way to get the ball rolling when it comes to finding your inner-strength again!
2 .) Start making fun of yourself . You're allowed to make fun of yourself! Laughing at the things that went wrong or pointing out something silly about what happened is a great way to look at things in a positive light. It makes you feel better, and it's more lighthearted than getting angry or frustrated with yourself.
3. ) Get out of the house . Take a walk, go do something fun, have a picnic with your friends. You shouldn't spend all of your time inside just because you don't feel like it. In fact, it's great to be active and stay out and about!
4. ) Get new hobbies . Be it pottery, writing or dancing--get yourself a hobby to do often! You never know when something exciting will happen that will pique your interest in the hobby.
5. ) Be impulsive . There's nothing wrong with having a little bit of a wild side, and sometimes it's good to stop thinking too much before you go forward with an idea that intrigues you. Why not try that new, exciting club you've never tried before? Or how about that new food item? Why not try it, and discover all its wonders for yourself?
6. ) Be witty . Being witty makes you a better person in general. Be it in your conversations or through what you say--you'll make a lot more friends by being witty!
7. ) Be generous . There's nothing wrong with giving from the heart when it comes to other people--and we're not talking about money here. You can give gifts or give advice or simply show your gratitude when somebody tries to be nice to you.
8. ) Be active . Do you want to be more active? Start small and go from there! A simple walk everyday can do wonders. It's not only good for your health, but it's also a great stress reliever. Spend some time listening to the sounds of nature, or even the sound of your own footsteps as you move forward.
9.) Be social . This one's tough, since we've already established that you don't feel like talking to anybody else--but it's a start nonetheless! Get yourself out there and have a good time, even if it doesn't last longer than a few minutes.
10.) Be honest . You're allowed to be honest with yourself as long as it's constructive. There's no point in lying to yourself--it's only going to cause more problems and make you feel worse.
A lot of people take the approach of writing down their feelings and hiding it away--but there's nothing wrong with being honest about it to yourself. You'll feel a lot better if you tell yourself what you're really feeling, rather than holding it all in until your mind explodes from frustration.
11.) Don't feel bad . There are a lot of people out there who feel bad for even trying--and sometimes, they're the ones who end up winning! It doesn't matter how hard things get, because what matters most is that you don't give up on trying to be better for yourself.
12. ) Be kind . It's okay to be kind, but there's a fine line between it being nice and it being trait-less. Sometimes you have to say these things in your head to make yourself feel better, and that's fine--but only if you don't say it aloud. It shouldn't be said so much that it gets annoying; a little bit is fine!
13.) Be patient . Let things happen at their own pace. Don't try to force something out of nowhere just because you think something will happen in the future. If it doesn't happen--don't worry about it!
14.) Surround yourself with positive people .
Conclusion
There's nothing wrong with taking the time to help yourself. Self-love is important, and sometimes it's necessary to help yourself before you can help others.
One last thing to remember about this journey--it's not always a linear straight line! If you have a bad day, that doesn't mean the entire journey is bad! You will get better if you keep trying and stay positive along the way.
This article is based on Inner-Challenged Intelligence , a free online workshop to help people live again when they feel down in the dumps. I am still updating this article as new tips come in. If you would like to contribute ideas/inspiration/etc.